Quote Originally Posted by His little one View Post
I am finding it hard to understand why I find humiliation to be such a turn-on, and I was wondering if any subs had thoughts on what makes it a turn on
There's pretty much nothing that will turn me OFF faster than being humiliated. And not even just cut my interest level but flat-out piss me off.

My original dom humiliated me once - I hated the situation, I hated the outfit, I hated being in public, I hated him for doing that to me & I hated myself for going along with it. There was nothing about the whole episode that turned me on. Needless to say, there was a big fight afterward & I'm much better off without him!

Yes, your dom may ask you to do things that might be outside of your comfort zone & you'll do them. But he should know you well enough to understand the difference between things you wouldn't normally do but you'll ultimately enjoy with him & those things that are beyond anywhere you'll willingly go.

While humiliation is a common theme for many subs & doms, it is not a universal turn on. Interests are specific to the people involved & they'll also vary based upon the situation & circumstances & timing. There is no one universal way to be submissive or dominant, just what works for the people involved...