Now, I'm new to the community and I was just browsing through posts when I saw this one and couldn't help but respond. Regarding the question about respecting someone less after seeing them humiliated, this is how I feel.

Maybe I'm new to the 'scene' or maybe this holds true for a lot of people but when a sub is willing and able to allow to humiliate them, it tells me a few things.

One, they trust me enough to put themselves in my hands and that in itself is something awe inspiring.

Second, the fact that they are willing to try and or enjoy aspects of humiliation tells me that they simply -know- that they are cared for (in most cases, at least with me) and that they don't question if what I'm saying is what I truly feel. They simply know and trust that it's not and have the faith in me, themselves, or both, to know that I -do- respect them and that this is simply for fun (or lifestyle). It shows me how much they trust and care about me as their dom and as a person.

Frankly I believe it takes a hell of a lot of courage to be a 'good' sub and trust in someone else like that. So, to sum it up, I respect someone more if they are willing and able to be humiliated or try something that puts them in their dom's hands.

Ah... and I hope I didn't offend anyone that doesn't like that kind of thing.