BDSM myths

[StillBehindBlueEyes]

I guess the biggest BDSM myth I believed was that I could quit it. Just like a lot of people seem to think homosexuality is a choice, I used to think fetishism was a choice and that I could drop it like a bad habit. Yeah, right. No offense, but if it was possible to quit I wouldn't be here.

I agree I suppressed for over 20 years and then pop, it explodes all over me.

Tojo,
For me one of the biggest myths was that any BDSM activities were meant to be all serious and that the dom/me ruled and made all decisions on what went on. What I now am learning is that it can be fun, lots of fun and that if the dom/me knows what they are doing, the sub has a lot of say in what happens.

I have never Giggled, or LOL so much in any place in my life. I was shocked when I was told by more than three people that as the Sub it was all about me. WHAT? Wow for real?

Well, Tojo.

There's one myth that we all destroy instantly-that is the one that all BDSM participants are hard, uncaring, selfish assholes.

This community of ours goes to show that we are all rather special.

I so agree, Tojo, Uncle Ed and Warbaby proved that to me the day I joined the forums. I couldn’t believe all the posts by these three and how much they wanted to help people. I’d see a Dom getting a little high handed and the next post would be one of these and there common sense.

When I first started exploring BDSM via the internet every picture I found was of these paper thin girls who didn't look like they were enjoying themselves.

It took me a while to find "real" women who weren't ashamed that they were submissive, and were proud of their bodies and of how their Master/Dom had tied them up, or the marks from a spanking. I'd had it in my head for a long while that Doms were only looking for thin girls.

This has shocked me. You mean someone would want me even if I’m just me?
When I joined the academy I purposely let it be known I was not petite or young and I still found acceptance. Hummmm so nice to have friends to play with.

Sorry this is so long but I wanted to credit everyone that touched me with their points. Keep up the great posts.