prolonged restraints.

[fetishdj]

I'll tell you something to me, that happened very recently. My master was punishing me for something that I done (we are online D/s) and he had me put a padlock around my balls for 24 hours. He said that if I took it off I would get an even worse punishment. So I endured the punishment, which it really hurt because of the metal rubbing against my skin.

Now I have peeled skin parts in my skin, even part of it bled the other night. What should I do about this so it doesn't happen again? Expecially if I can't talk to my master all the time? I mean, i would have taken it off when it first started to really hurt but I really didn't want to disappoint him, what should I do?

The problem with online BDSM is that the dominant is not there monitoring the situation directly and there is always a delay in communication between sub and Dom. For this reason, while in online relationships, I usually consider it wise to have some form of clause which states: if the sub feels that they are in an unsafe situation they should feel empowered to take the required steps to be safe.

Any Dominant will not begrudge an action which ensures their sub's safety and well being. As a Dominant in this situation you have to ask yourself 'if I saw this in a face to face session, would I end the session?' as a sub, you have to ask 'in a face to face session, would I safeword?'

Another thing to consider, if you ended up in hospital (for any reason) and therefore had to have the padlock removed, do you think your Master would punish you for something beyond your control?

[wolfpup]

The problem with online BDSM is that the dominant is not there monitoring the situation directly and there is always a delay in communication between sub and Dom. For this reason, while in online relationships, I usually consider it wise to have some form of clause which states: if the sub feels that they are in an unsafe situation they should feel empowered to take the required steps to be safe.

Any Dominant will not begrudge an action which ensures their sub's safety and well being. As a Dominant in this situation you have to ask yourself 'if I saw this in a face to face session, would I end the session?' as a sub, you have to ask 'in a face to face session, would I safeword?'

Another thing to consider, if you ended up in hospital (for any reason) and therefore had to have the padlock removed, do you think your Master would punish you for something beyond your control?

Yeah, I knew it'd kind of be slower. And at the time, I was so....I don't know the word. I was trying so hard to please him that I didn't see the danger until afterwords >.> I've also got to say that that dom isn't my dom anymore....We had a bit of an argument, and it wasn't pretty. But I got a new dom, and he's a lot more careful with me, especially since of what's happened before.

Well, I know if I'd gone to the hospital I think it would have been allowed. Especially with my new master it would have been allowed if it was anything. Speaking of which (not trying to get off topic, but..) I actually had to go to the hospital this last Wednesday. One of my testes was inflamed, causing great amounts of pain, but I don't think that's from what happened, because it was so long ago. But yeah, I have to take pills... I hate pills.

I would have defiantly used the safeword....