what do you think of the silent treatment as used for punishment?

[13'sbadkitty]

i actually think of it as pretty fucked up. i wouldnt do this to someone, unless it was for a predetermined time. some people just stop talking, and that leads to confusion and fear, and is not conducive to a good relationship.

i would have to agree, to me it would feel as abandonment. it would create desperation maybe and possibly resentment. i feel submission to Him as a whole is a choice even though the specific acts of submission are not beyond limits and such. The silent treatment for me would create a desperation to submit rather than the gift of it. i feel that i would have to say His domination of me is a gift as well, if i refused to submit to the point where this was necessary than as Ozome said maybe i have revoked it. ( sorry not good at the multiple quote thing)

[phinneygirl]

i would have to agree, to me it would feel as abandonment. it would create desperation maybe and possibly resentment. i feel submission to Him as a whole is a choice even though the specific acts of submission are not beyond limits and such. The silent treatment for me would create a desperation to submit rather than the gift of it. i feel that i would have to say His domination of me is a gift as well, if i refused to submit to the point where this was necessary than as Ozome said maybe i have revoked it. ( sorry not good at the multiple quote thing)

For me this would also cause feeling of abandonment and would cause me to totally shut down. Been in a vanilla relationship that silent treatment was the norm and it has taught me I don't have to have conversation. On the other hand it has also conditioned me to it and I have to work now to not shut down when My Dom stops talking it makes me feel insecure, defensive, confused and cold which in turn makes me not want to talk when he is ready. Just bad all the way around for me as punishment.