Quote Originally Posted by pixie_piper View Post
i just feel so foolish for giving my whole self over to someone who i didnt even actually know like i thought i did. i gave so much time so much effort and unwaivering obedience and it still wasn't enough for him.
That is how anyone feels when a relationship that they invested a lot of themselves into doesn't work out. You put a lot of work into something and then it falls apart, and that hurts in a lot of ways. But do not blame yourself. As badkitty said, nothing that you did caused him to cheat. That's squarely on his losery shoulders.

Also don't think of the time you spent as wasted, either. What you have learned about yourself through this endeavor will make you wiser, and improve any future relationships you'll have, too.