i use to have a ld relationship with the Master who i have now and i agree in what fetishdj has just said communications is very important. we use to speak to each other every day whether it was just for 5 minutes an hour 2 hours, webcam is important also text and phone each other. Master also made arrangements for me to see another Dom/Master who would carry out any punishments if any and send pic and a write up to keep Master informed. The Dom/Master had to follow Masters instructions to the book which was no permanent marks.