I'm so sorry to hear about your marriage...but I'm glad you had the courage to dump his ass when he cheated on you.

Quote Originally Posted by sexyredhead View Post
Here is the issue. He wants to collar me.
Already?

I told him I want to wait and he was very frustrated with me. His reason is that because I did yo yo so much, waffling between leaving my husband and being with him or ending it with him and committing 100% to fixing my marriage, that it is important for him to have the stability of the collar.
I guess, but how much could it possibly mean at this short length of your relationship?

While I do understand his point and I know that I have driven him stark raving mad at times, I still feel that this relationship is new. Being that I am brand new and he has 30 years experience I believe that he should accept that I want some time to leave my marriage and get stable in my new life before making another long-term commitment.
Uh, yeah.

and that my being collared makes him feel good.
Not a reason to accept a collar. You should only take a collar if you want it, if you mean it; if it's not your desire to have it then it's meaningless anyway; you'll only properly honor it if you want it there.

Honestly, the only reason I want to wait is because I am skiddish about making the "official" commitment even though I am going to be his regardless.
I would suggest to find other ways to show the strength of your commitment for now. He sounds very insecure to me; I don't know if your previous behavior has warrented that or if he's just plain insecure. But I don't think you should be forced into a heavy commitment like that so fast after leaving a previous one.