Ok, so I posted before about wanting to introduce my husband to the lifestyle and got some great advice. Unfortunately our marriage is over at this point. I wholeheartedly attempted reconciliation and discovered he was cheating on me, again.
So, I am making new plans now. Plans to leave his ass!
A few months ago we were planning to separate and during that time discovered my interest in BDSM. I met a few Doms online and chatted with them trying to learn about the lifestyle and if it was really what I wanted. One of these men I grew very close with and now in light of recent circumstances we decided to start a relationship. He is quite a bit older and has been extremely patient with me considering my yo yo behavior regarding my marriage. So, when I told him I was definetly getting out of my marriage and that I wanted to be with him but I needed some time to actually get out, financial reasons and childcare, he was fine with that. We have met in rl if anyone was wondering.
Here is the issue. He wants to collar me. I told him I want to wait and he was very frustrated with me. His reason is that because I did yo yo so much, waffling between leaving my husband and being with him or ending it with him and committing 100% to fixing my marriage, that it is important for him to have the stability of the collar.
While I do understand his point and I know that I have driven him stark raving mad at times, I still feel that this relationship is new. Being that I am brand new and he has 30 years experience I believe that he should accept that I want some time to leave my marriage and get stable in my new life before making another long-term commitment. Am I wrong? Is he wrong? Should I just accept the collar and give him the peace of mind he seeks? I do want to please him after all. Or is this a red flag? I have complete trust in him and know that he is under an enormous amount of pressure and that my being collared makes him feel good. Honestly, the only reason I want to wait is because I am skiddish about making the "official" commitment even though I am going to be his regardless.
Any advice? Thanks!