An emotional connection - Do you need one for a successful D/s relationship?

I can only speak for myself and I think definately yes. I guess there will be those who, as you state, are looking for 'no strings'. But to me I would feel unable to bring pleasure unless I knew the person concerned and therefore had some attachement of some form.

I would advise against taking up with someone you knew little or nothing about for obvious reasons. I find in practice (online only I'm afraid) I find it hard to role play with someone I do not know. In fact I don't think I ever have (I know someone will shoot me down there, just can't think who).

I want to know as much as I can before I role play. Not only for emotional reasons but so I can use the right triggers and manipulate the correct reactions for the purpose I desire to create. For me at least it is intensly satisfying to 'get under the skin' of a person. I am convinced your most erogenous zone is your brain. For often if the brain can visualise it until it seems real it can have trouble telling the difference.

I cannot comment on poly Doms, as a rule I don't 'collect'. But it would seem to me that the person who had other partners is responsible for the 'walls'. That may be both partners of course. I do not object to a sub having other 'play' partners but that is more down to me feeling secure I think. As with all things communication is the key. as with all things letting can be difficult. We have to take a careful step and gradually make our way along the path we choose.

Regards and Mahalo - Dragon xxx