I just wanted to offer my suggestions to you, as I am in a simillar situation as your Sir. My sub is very knowledgable and experienced in this lifestyle, and I have but a few months of genuine experience. She saw tremendous potential in me, due to my personality and the way I carry myself, but she knew that I lacked a lot of knowledge when it came to this lifestyle.

A lot of denuseri's suggestions are what my sub did for me, and they were invaluable. Encouragement from her and her constantly pushing me to pursue my desires with no regret or remorse about how it might effect her were a lot of what allowed me to fully begin growing and experimenting with confindence. She would always tell me not too worry, that no matter how bad I thought it might be, she always had our safe word if things went too far. That alone is a huge comfort for me, knowing that if something goes too far for her that she can use the safe word to let me know that we need to stop.

Another thing that my sub did for me was to use my love of reading to suggest fictional books for me to read. After I finished reading them she would ask me what parts I really enjoyed and once I told her she would simply reply with a smile, "If it pleases you, try it." Once I had begun to form my own desires she recommend a lot of websites and information books for me to read, that way I had understanding of the principles and guidelines for what I was doing.

I know she grew frustrated with me at several points throughout my learning (and I'm still constantly learning how to be better for myself and for her), but she had faith in me and that faith in me allowed me to let go and build confidence in what I wanted and what I was doing. I still have a lot of learning to do and she still offers me suggestions here and there, but I'm gradually getting there and it's making us both happier.

Like denuseri said, you just need to try and be patient with him. As frustrating as it might be for you, imagine how frustrating and scary it might be for him. Not only does he have to unlearn much of what society has taught him is unacceptable, but he also has a learn an entirely new behavior and deal with the fear of hurting you (which was a big issue for me starting out). Have faith in him and continue to be encouraging and I'm sure he'll become an even better Sir than you had hoped.

Hope this helps.

-Skull C.-

p.s. If you are interested, I will ask my sub to get into contact with you and tell you how she got through dealing with the pain in the ass that is me