I just stumbled over this thread and am really relieved to have found it.

I'm relatively new to the whole thing, and until now haven't had the pleasure to drop by in a related online-chat but from what I read here I guess I wouldn't fit right in if I accidently picked the wrong one.
for one, I wouldn't ever mind my capital typings - "I" is the only word I ever seem to spell in capitals, and that's only from habit. I'm also one of the people who tends to have problems reading something with too many slashes, ehm, I even only figured out what this means and why people do it a short time ago. if someone feels like it's okay with them they should do it, as it's as much restricting to say "hey you shouldn't do it!" as forcing someone to do it, but I don't think that anyone around here would do that. you seem too sensible

although I consider myself rather on the submissive side, I have a dominant streak, and there are things I won't do simply because I find them stupid; or it's just too tempting not to do it. I'm refering to my dom as sir (no capitals), but I tend to get lenient with that rather soon - until now he hasn't told me to mind his title, but even if he did I'd probably wouldn't do it more frequently. maybe I'm just trying to call doom down on myself?
and that bowing and curtsying thing is rather stupid, I'd say. I'd only consider it appropriate in a matching scene, but I guess I'd ruin it by having to chuckle too much.

I sometimes do have a low self-esteem, but it seems to rise the moment someone wants to use that against me. for myself I have some defined limits as to how I would address others, and behave towards them, if some dom in an online chat would require me to grovel before him without being his sub I'd probably laugh in his virtual face and quit. I think that as a woman and a sub I require at least as much politeness as the other side might want from me - at the end we are all people, everyone's equal. I simply don't see why something like "all are equal, but some are more equal than others" should apply to me only because I prefer being dominated to dominating myself. naturally there are do's and don't's in a d/s relationship for the sub, but that should all stay in a well-defined (by both parties) reach everyone can live with - for me this couldn't be too tight; but the important thing is that it's something two people have to be content with, so it can't be something defined in a book, it has to be a dynamic thing.

now that's quite a ramble I've produced here, I don't even know if I contributed anything new or was able to express my point of view. we'll see.