a question for sadists

[leo9]

what is it that you enjoy about causing pain?

I've asked myself that a lot over the years, and the best answer I can find is that for me, sadism is a subset of dominance. I like power over people, whether by having them tied up and helpless, or crawling in submission, or howling in agony or ecstasy. And of all the ways to express power, the simplest and most basic is to hurt someone who can't (or daren't) stop me hurting hir.

The thrill I get feels the same whether I'm teasing someone to more orgasms than sie can bear, or beating hir to tears. It's about taking control of hir body and making it do what I want, not what sie wants. And the fact that it leads to other kinds of power - that I can take someone who is, at least in role, resisting and protesting, and beat and torture hir till sie calls me Master and begs to serve - is just cream and cherries on top.

do you like it when we tolerate it? cry? beg? beg for more?

Any reaction is good (except maybe "Have you started yet?" ) But subs that just lie there and grunt challenge me to turn it up till I get some proper response.

is there a type of pain you enjoy causing more than others and why?

I like hitty-toys that make plenty of noise and marks; I like to see where I've been. I haven't done much with electrics, partly because I'm scared of electric shocks myself, but mainly because I don't think I'd get half as much out of invisible pain that I can only see by the sub's reaction.

do you like it when we are overwhelmed by it?

Love it. If the sub isn't begging me to stop, I've not finished the job. That's why safewords are so important, so I know the difference between "Please, mercy, no more, I can't bear it" and "RED!"

do you like when or if we get nervous, jumpy or maybe outright scared of a session or do you prefer someone to anticipate eagerly the experience?

Fear is the most fun, but a sub who really wants me to beat hir is as good as one begging to be fucked. It's still me in control of hir.

i would love it if you don't mind not only to answer what you can above, but if there is something i have forgotten to ask that you think we who receive it should know by all means do tell.

Just to say, turning my hat around, that when I submit my response to pain also seems to be about power. I can't get into being hurt for pain's sake, but if someone I'm serving beats me, I can process it as part of my submission and be excited by it.