The Young Dom

[leo9]

There's nothing wrong with being a beginner if you're honest about it. We all were once.

But there's a difference between being a Dom, which is the way you are, and being a Master, which is what you do. There are probably even more definitions than FR mentions, but I like the simple practical one that I call the Caesar test. It was said in ancient Rome that a man couldn't name himself Caesar, it was the legions that named him. In my opinion, a man can call himself a Master when his subs or slaves call him that.

That definition doesn't have an age limit, but it does imply a certain level of ability and achievement. If you already have that, congratulations, you don't need to worry about others' opinions. If not, see it as a goal to aim for, not something to demand.

[Austerus]

I call the Caesar test. It was said in ancient Rome that a man couldn't name himself Caesar, it was the legions that named him. In my opinion, a man can call himself a Master when his subs or slaves call him that. .

Brilliant leo

@OP
I've been a dom since I was 18, and probably would have been before that except that it may not have been legal and I am, of course, a law abiding citizen. If you're legal you're old enough. If subs don't want to submit to you then it may be more a matter of demeanor or confidence, with age as the kind/easy letdown. You'll eventually find a sub who wants to play, and then from there get more experience, and it will all snowball. It will be fine.

The particular term 'master' though holds special significance for most people in the scene. I think leo nailed it. Call yourself dominant, be dominant, let subs see that, and then down the road if one of them wants to call you her master then it will be a happy day (or an awkward, crappy day, depending how you feel about her. But let's assume happy.)