Thanks everyone for your input, I am learning a lot.
I guess then what I should focus on is figuring out exactly what it is that I want out of a D/s relationship, what my limits are and of course what I can learn from the taskee society.
The question then is how do I know what's going to make me happy, if I haven't experienced the real thing yet. Or at least gone as far as what I imagine my limits to be at this point?