Quote Originally Posted by leo9 View Post
Ah, irony?
*groan* Haha.

I think the Dom journey and refining process is much more internal than external, in my own case. For me, it's more a process of settling into myself, and less concerned with outside input from others. Not that it is unvalued, but always ends up re-filtered to hold meaning for me. Although I have a natural tendency to push others' envelopes (as it were) there is absolutely- as denuseri and Zarine mentioned- a process of learning what is enough, or too much, and where the balance lies. But that is also extremely specific to each individual sub. Left to my own devices, I push things as far as I possibly can, before coming against a "hard" limit. Probably also why more discussion centers around subs.

Although I'm pleased and flattered if the end result of my process is the appearance that I simply arrived in a perfect package. That's exactly what I was going for.