This is really good advice! Thank you. I mean, it seems like common sense and all, but when I get upset or scared, common sense tends to fly out the window. Having had someone else who's not me tell me to remember to take a step back and breathe I think will be really helpful.
It's not an easy thing to put into practice, but when you're dealing with some strong, and sometimes confusing, feelings it's a very useful tool to take a step back and check in with yourself. Forums such as this one are kind of nice that way, because you have as much time as you need to read and interpret information, and think about how you feel about it before you respond, if at all.

This probably is a big part of it. I just don't understand how I can understand and honestly believe it's okay for other people but not for me.
Self-acceptance isn't easy. To be honest, scene-sters are some of the most open minded and accepting people that I've come across. We all have our own particular kinks and pleasures, and can appreciate that others have theirs as well. Share, and let others people accept you as you are until you get there for yourself. There's no hurry, after all.