On the same but directly opposite side of VeAugusta, not so much discovering, as much as comprehending my submission took time.
Ef, I'm not even entirely sure I understand exactly why I want what I want or fully crave the things I crave, but the same thing happens with chocolate, or cake, or bacon--you just want it because you want it, you know?
I'm in the process of learning a new language from scratch now, and was asking my mother who's a teacher about how something happens grammatically--in a very technical kind of sense. She just told me that I don't need to know, what she called meta-gnosis, which is understanding why the language works as it does, presumably in order to be able to explain it. Luckily for us, nothing about a sexuality (no matter how twisted) needs to be taught or explained (unless, you know, that rocks your boat). But even if you want to reach meta-gnosis, give yourself time, experiences.

AND keep in mind that native speakers especially don't reach an understanding of their language, because of, uhm, being born in it. In our case that's 'with' it.

But you see my parallel here? If it's in you (and it's in you ) play around with it!