Domming and Complexes

[nerameshu]

Thank you all for your insights. Forgive me for not answering sooner, but there have been issues connecting to the web in my area recently.

I asked this because I have known, all my life, that I feel something has been missing from me. This thing, I cannot grasp, just away from me, makes me feel incomplete. But when I found out about this community, being both this forum and the kinksters around the world, I felt complete for a while.

Now, issues of my mental health have come up, and I wondered if my own problems with myself are the cause of a desire for this type of life, or if they have nothing to do with my sexual desires at all.

In the long run, this was about even more introspection than normal for me.

(Also, how many people had lifechanges at twenty? )

[DeityorDevil]

Thank you all for your insights. Forgive me for not answering sooner, but there have been issues connecting to the web in my area recently.

I asked this because I have known, all my life, that I feel something has been missing from me. This thing, I cannot grasp, just away from me, makes me feel incomplete. But when I found out about this community, being both this forum and the kinksters around the world, I felt complete for a while.

Now, issues of my mental health have come up, and I wondered if my own problems with myself are the cause of a desire for this type of life, or if they have nothing to do with my sexual desires at all.

In the long run, this was about even more introspection than normal for me.

(Also, how many people had lifechanges at twenty? )

It's possible for there to be both. I have my own mental health issues, as some people do. When I don't deny who I am, those issues are fairly minimal, and I'm much more stable than when I try to fight against my natural inclinations. My kink desires have little to do with my issues, in that they tend to take a backseat when I'm not feeling very well, and become a non-issue. I don't think that mental issues are necessarily causative. They can be correlative, depending on what your specific issue is and how it's expressed, or they can be fairly separate.

And yes, major major life changes at twenty.