The implications of safewords..

[thir]

1) How do you regard a safeword?
2) How do you use a safeword, do you have different levels of safe wording out or does it mean, stop, finished, no more?
3) How have you felt after using your safword?
4) Do you let play go to far because you do not want to use the safeword givin to you because you see it as a bad thing?

1) I regard a safe word as a sensible tool, as long as, as a domme, you do not rely only on that. My thought is that if either the dom or the sub wants it, it should be there.

2) Have tried levels, but, as a sub, they did not work for me. It can be difficult enough to remember the concept of 'safeword' sometimes, much less levels.

3) Speaking as both dom and sub: absolutely ok. It is just a tool. If the power balance is as it should be (for whoever is doing it) there is not problem in a safeword.

4) It has happened, yes :-) But I learned.
For one thing, the energy and magic cannot but be at least partially destroyed, if one person is suddenly heavily distracted by something else.