The implications of safewords..

[Kuskovian]

Safe word or not:

Submissive’s often loose their heads during a session despite every desire they may have to stay focused; hence they do not always have the capacity to think clearly during play and safe word out at the right time.

A safe word or safe word system if you use one as a tool should never be a crutch for the dominant to shirk his responsibilities.

As the one in charge they are ultimately responsible for everything in their dominion.

[Ozme52]

Safe word or not:

Submissive’s often loose their heads during a session despite every desire they may have to stay focused; hence they do not always have the capacity to think clearly during play and safe word out at the right time.

A safe word or safe word system if you use one as a tool should never be a crutch for the dominant to shirk his responsibilities.

As the one in charge they are ultimately responsible for everything in their dominion.

Kuskovian,

You and I are almost always in agreement. But I must ask... do you ever fly commercial airlines, let someone else drive, or let someone "decide" what you, as part of a group will do for entertainment. I certainly do... and upon occasion, I make the demand that my sub keep her head about her and provide me the service of being responsible for her own safety so that I might let loose and submerge myself (or is that "dommerge myself") in some or the rougher aspects of my kink. I certainly still maintain a level of self control... but not necessarily self restraint, (a subtle difference.)

In that way, I am the recipient of total sexual and emotional release, call it excess aggression burnoff. Because sometimes... it just has to be all about me.

For that, I trust her to go exactly as far as she can take, no further, and the safeword is the delimiter. AND, by doing so, we learned that we both could be more intense than either of us had previously thought. Quite educational.

[leo9]

Kuskovian,

You and I are almost always in agreement. But I must ask... do you ever fly commercial airlines, let someone else drive, or let someone "decide" what you, as part of a group will do for entertainment. I certainly do... and upon occasion, I make the demand that my sub keep her head about her and provide me the service of being responsible for her own safety so that I might let loose and submerge myself (or is that "dommerge myself") in some or the rougher aspects of my kink. I certainly still maintain a level of self control... but not necessarily self restraint, (a subtle difference.)

In that way, I am the recipient of total sexual and emotional release, call it excess aggression burnoff. Because sometimes... it just has to be all about me.

For that, I trust her to go exactly as far as she can take, no further, and the safeword is the delimiter. AND, by doing so, we learned that we both could be more intense than either of us had previously thought. Quite educational.

I think you are both of you right. Because I would bet that you do this with a sub you know well, can read accurately without having to think about it: so when you let yourself go and rely completely on the sub's safeword, at the same time you feel confident that if the worst came to the worst, if the sub was in deep trouble but too far out of it to speak... you would know.