Help for a newbie

[scarlet_85]

Hm....

I am a very strong willed person in a vanilla setting. Even my Master was shocked at me admitting that I was a sub. He was sure my name should have Mistress in front of it. Even now I slightly rebel. I give the look of "fuck you" and tend to walk away. I wouldn't say I'm a bratty sub though. It's just a slight struggle.

I think that since you are aware of your actions, maybe you can stop the D/s scene before you snap. Like acknowledge how you feel right before the moment of uproar and stop right at that moment. Maybe even implement a "safe word" to inform your Dom that you are feeling like you are overwhelmed or uneasy with his dominance. Then once the word is said, you can either stop all play or just take a 5 minute breather.

I hope you are able to over come this I feel that BDSM is something that can really enhance life. It adds that twist of excitement.

[tarajane]

Thank you Scarlet

I don't think i am 'bratty' per say either. I think it is the same as you, just a case of being strong willed and independent in vanilla life.

I discussed the idea of using a safe word and he thinks it is a great idea. Thank you so much He has also asked that if i feel the need to vent like that, that i do it either on a blog or a diary in secret. Then when i have let it all out i can speak calmly to him.

I really hope I can over come this and give him everything he deserves.

Thanks again