Becoming scarlet

[Ozme52]

You need a signal or activity that has trained into you the equivalent of a Pavlovian response, one that just throws you into your submission.

I use positions, had my girl practice them in conjunction with selected mental images. Having her take one, this very morning in fact, evoked an immediate response in her.

[scarlet_85]

You need a signal or activity that has trained into you the equivalent of a Pavlovian response, one that just throws you into your submission.

I use positions, had my girl practice them in conjunction with selected mental images. Having her take one, this very morning in fact, evoked an immediate response in her.

Hm... so what and how? Lol how long did it take to train her to respond like that? It literally will take me all day to fully submit. This has always been a struggle of mine. Once I submit %100, I'm fine... no rebellion or bratty actions. It's like I notice right away when I'm there %100... like freedom almost. Anyway, I am really frustrated with it. I would think that being as I acknowledge the problem, I'd be able to fix it easier.

*sighs*

[ar1]

You need a signal or activity that has trained into you the equivalent of a Pavlovian response, one that just throws you into your submission.

Maybe it could help to associate a piece of clothing or an item of jewellery, or even a certain perfume (or all of these together!) with being scarlet. Every time you want to become the slave, wear a certain item and use it to associate with who you are becoming. Sometimes visual things as simple as these help get us into the mood a lot quicker, although of course the mental side of it is an issue that you'll need to try and work with too. And well, they say practice makes perfect :-) They also say nobody's perfect so don't worry about that either haha!

[Ozme52]

Maybe it could help to associate a piece of clothing or an item of jewellery, or even a certain perfume (or all of these together!) with being scarlet. Every time you want to become the slave, wear a certain item and use it to associate with who you are becoming. Sometimes visual things as simple as these help get us into the mood a lot quicker, although of course the mental side of it is an issue that you'll need to try and work with too. And well, they say practice makes perfect :-) They also say nobody's perfect so don't worry about that either haha!

Yes. Aroma and odor are strong factors when it comes to conditioning. If your dominant wears a particular aftershave, wear his T-shirt or use his pillow, while you become scarlet, and see if that helps.

[scarlet_85]

Yes. Aroma and odor are strong factors when it comes to conditioning. If your dominant wears a particular aftershave, wear his T-shirt or use his pillow, while you become scarlet, and see if that helps.

Call me a dork... lol... but when time is spent with him, my hoodie or whatever I'm wearing always smells like him. I have been known to "huff my hoodie" from time to time. I figure its better than huffing spray paint :P

[scarlet_85]

Maybe it could help to associate a piece of clothing or an item of jewellery, or even a certain perfume (or all of these together!) with being scarlet. Every time you want to become the slave, wear a certain item and use it to associate with who you are becoming. Sometimes visual things as simple as these help get us into the mood a lot quicker, although of course the mental side of it is an issue that you'll need to try and work with too. And well, they say practice makes perfect :-) They also say nobody's perfect so don't worry about that either haha!

I suppose I already do this. All jewelry is removed... earrings, necklace, bracelets. Also, there is a specific lotion I use prior to a session. Other things that are always done is I shave, use a pummice stone and parafin wax on my feet, and I always paint my toe nails. The day prior to a scene I actually prepare a lot. I want to always be at my best for Him. It never fails though, that once He locks my collar on, all rebellion is gone. That is was the number one thing is that makes me scarlet. So, maybe in time just doing the little things will automatically throw me into scarlet mode. I suppose you can call it my preparation process.

In the beginning, he was giving me tasks to accomplish through the week and now that I think about it, that actually always kept me partially in the slave mindset. I think maybe its time to restart that process.

I really feel that I'm doing better with all of it now than I was a couple months ago. I tend to lose patience and grow frustrated.

Oh! Our play sessions were fabulous We had a hard play session on Saturday and a softer session on Sunday. As always, we were both left smiling.