Unless you are adopting this behavior as your 24-7 lifestyle, I would recomend that you see it as a fantasy world seperate from the reality we face everyday. That, to me, is what makes it fun and desireable, is exploring those traits we don't use in our day to day lives. The people who adopt this as a lifestyle have a diffrent point of view, but I see this as an escpe from my day to day life and the BS and stress that goes with it.