For the ladies out there: If you consider yourself a feminist**, how do you balance that with your submission? There is obviously subserviency in a BDSM relationship and may even take on traits that an outsider (or certain insiders!) would call condescending to your position as a woman (being called "good girl", etc.).

I'm new to exploring my submissive side but am a strong feminist and have been for years. I'm struggling a bit with what turns me on and makes me happy and the way that seemingly clashes with many of the values I hold dear. I'm curious as to how other submissive feminists are able to balance the two.

**Feminist, from my own definition, means a person (female OR male) who desires and may actively work towards equal rights for the sexes.