This question seems to come up quite often and my thoughts have always been the same, 1, I do not understand why you get married to someone before being sure that you're both sexually compatible. Its crazy imo.2. Be honest and open about what your desires and kinks are. Speak up. If one cant be honest and open with the one you love then who can you trust? In your case you could even use your physical state as an excuse to explore other ways to have sex and pleasures. Good luck.