So, my husband and I have been married for 4 yrs. In the beginning, we had tons of sex. It was great. Well, he left home a lot due to work, and then I found out I had vaginismus. So sex is super painful now. Well, I'm really into the whole submissive thing. I want to be tied up, spanked, punished, etc. I'm super shy even with my husband still about sex. So, I was wondering if anyone had advice for talking to your husband about it, how to start it, how to actually do the stuff when sex is painful, and such. Any advice would really be appreciated. At this point, sex is starting to seem like the enemy, and both my husband and I LOVE sex. Thanks in advance!