First off, we were sexually compatible. However, I lost my virginity to him. It kind of makes it hard to know everything you want/like with limited experience. I was raised to be with only one partner. The issue came up with the pain, and then with me wanting things that I wasn't even sure what they were.

I trust him completely with sex. However, I'm not open about talking about sex. It just wasn't done in my family. I learned about sex from school, books, and eventually my husband prior to him being my husband. I talked to him about it, but it is difficult for me to clearly communicate. That's my biggest problem. Well, one of them at least. It's really hard for me to talk what I want or like at all. I'm working on that issue, but it is still a current issue.

My other big problem is the pain. Has anyone ever had to deal with it being painful for sex? I know it's an issue for us, and I was wondering about ways around that issue.