What is more important early in a relationship quality or quantity? I am talking time together of course *giggles*

On one hand, it is difficult to get to really know someone when there is very little time to spend interacting, so quantity would be important here, but on the other hand if the time spent together is not good quality time then is it really worth it?

I am also wondering what others would consider to be a good amount of time to spend interacting when new to a relationship, as well as how is the best way you have found to ensure the time you do get together is quality time when time is very limited?

The reason I ask this is because about 1 1/2 years ago I ended a 13 year relationship, I have dated a bit in that time and discovered that being submissive is something that interests me a lot. I recently met a great guy who is in a similar place, and recently became interested in exploring his Dominant side. This will be the first time in about 15 years that I have been in any new relationship, and the first time ever being in a D/s relationship, it would seem that I simply don't know how to start a relationship (you would think this would be easy). I find myself anxious when I don't hear from him every day, but logically, I know it's not necessary. To compound things, because of some things in my past I have abandonment issues, I am terrified that I will do something wrong and he will just disappear. He has never given me any reason to feel this way, he has been very patient with me, although I am yet to discuss the abandonment issues with him (I only came to terms with it myself this week). I know at times I have sent off panicked e-mails to him that end in him being very frustrated with me but his response to this has been wonderful, he makes sure I have the chance to express what I am feeling, he makes sure the little bit of time we get together is quality time.

To sum it up, I am looking for quantity, because I need constant reassurance that he is not going to vanish (even though I know there is no logical reason for me to think this), I feel that the quality time will develop from that. It would seem to me that he is looking for good quality in the little bit of time we do get to spend together, he does not often contact me until there is enough time to have some quality time, he seems to feel that the quantity is not so important as long as the quality is there.

I personally think there is some right to both thoughts but would love to hear some other perspective on this, particularly if anyone has been in a similar place, how did you get through this without driving both of you crazy in the process?