When I first met my husband he told me about the BDSM lifestyle. He said that he's always wanted to have that kind of relationship but his others wives first said they would then changed their minds. It took me awhile to learn all I could and so we started out slow. Well I've gotten to the point where I just completely gave myself to him and now he's acting like he has no idea what he's doing. He expects me to come to him to get things started and if I don't then he gets upset but I can't read his mind. Isn't he the one who's supposed to tell me what he wants? I am so ready willing and able and he's pulling a way like an insecure teenager. He's always telling me what a dominate personality he has but he doesn't dominate anything. I have to tell him what I want and what I'd like for him to do to me. I'm about to go crazy. Just recently we had three whole days to ourselves with no kids (mine from a previous marriage) and all he wanted to do was spend time watching TV and going for a romantic ride. Now he's saying that I'm pulling away from him but I'm not. I'm just waiting for him to take the lead. Isn't that his job/role? The most excitement I have is eating ice cream right out of the container. I'm very frustrated and bored and hurt. What do I do?