Tasks?!?

[Flaming_Redhead]

Maybe y'all could help a girl understand the purpose of tasking. I've been into the lifestyle for 1 1/2 years and did 1 year of online research before jumping in. So far, I've noticed that tasking seems to be primarily an online thing. My real life dominants never called it tasking. They haven't ever given me assignments just to keep me busy. My "tasks" have included doing the dishes after they cooked, laundry, making phone calls, making coffee, making the bed, refilling their glass, etc. Basically, I help them around the house. It's called service. I guess I'm just wondering how online tasks (or even real life tasking for those that do it) serve the dominant in any meaningful way, besides providing masturbation material (pics). Am I being cynical? Probably. I'm here to learn, so enlighten me.

[In2kink]

While more familiar with real life I suspect "tasking" online is somewhat similar to a "scene" in real life. Someone told me that the Libary had a sister site called the Academy where "tasking" was the term used for performing online scenes.

[Torq]

Hey Reds why not join the Tasking Society here and find out!! Ya might like it !!! LOL

In reference to the "former" BDSM Library Academy it use to be part of this site it is no longer in existance,,replaced with The Tasking Society

Thanks

Be Well

T

ps. Reds Its not what most folks think it is,, Enjoy!

[tired.of.vanilla{DJ}]

because in online we can't really be bound...humilated...fucked and left used. So we are given things to do to represent that loss.

[denuseri]

FRH, your former Masters never had you go into a store and buy a cucumber and some lube, or anything like that? My owner doesnt call such things tasks nessesarally eiather so much as "marching orders", Some of his orders for me to do things in his absence were highly erotic, weg, i would imajine online tasks, or the ones from the tasking society will perhaps be simular i am not sure, i dont as of yet have permission to join as a taskee, but i am curious and seeking it (you wouldnt believe how many blowjobs it takes to get permission frpm my owner to do even the most mundane of things around here) lol

hugs and kissess
denuseri

[fetishdj]

I think it is purely semantics. A verbal instruction is still a task the same way as an online written one is it just isn't called such. The reason why online tasks may seem more detailed and involved is because you have to write out more instructions to make sure all the information is there whereas in r/l you can give a relatively simpler verbal instruction.

Even in r/l you can get written instructions, of course. Have you never been sent an e-mail of instructions to get things ready for when he gets home? Never been left a note to find when you arrive at his house?

A lot of it is also personal preference.

[Flaming_Redhead]

FRH, your former Masters never had you go into a store and buy a cucumber and some lube, or anything like that?

Have you never been sent an e-mail of instructions to get things ready for when he gets home? Never been left a note to find when you arrive at his house?

Ummm....noooooo.....LOL It's not that Daddy never asks me to do things. It's just that they're "normal" things.

[LewisC]

Red,

Read stories on the BDSM Library, including my recent one Alex - The Suffering Submissive. It has a lesbian theme but a whole lot of taksing. Lewis Chappelle

[Ozme52]

I guess I'm just wondering how online tasks (or even real life tasking for those that do it) serve the dominant in any meaningful way, besides providing masturbation material (pics). Am I being cynical? Probably. I'm here to learn, so enlighten me.

Well, it helps me two ways. Online, before meeting, tasks are designed to make you think a lot about me... in otherwise everyday contexts.

A simple clothespin clipped to a boot top or in your sneaker's lacings.
Or a post it with my name in the top of your purse.
Or sitting at break, with a green highlighter...

Position practice... to get your mind into a submissive mode... so that you're easier to dominate during the first meeting... and so you have loads of anticipation which require fulfillment. Tasks such as position practice predispose you into being ready for things that otherwise might make you balk or falter.

The other thing tasks do for me... is they give me insights to your psyche and desires. A shortcut, if you will, in the process of 'getting to know you'

One of my favorite tasks is to send you on a hunt for pictures. The ones that make you hot and horny. The first task might be just random pics... and if I see a theme, the next one will be on that theme. Or if we've chatted and I sense an interest in a particular activity, the task will be to find pictures of that activity... with full descriptions of how the pic affects you.

By the time we meet, such tasks will have made you mine as easily as a week in my clutches can.

BTW, I write in the "second person" on purpose. Just to make you and other interested readers just a bit... warm?

[Flaming_Redhead]

Mmmhmm.....I see how that could be helpful for someone who doesn't have frequent contact.