I've recently become interested in writing, so I guess I can call myself an amateur writer. I'm mainly interested in research so I can write erotica novels. As if you couldn't tell what I write by my being here. I'm married, have a 1 and a half year old son and probably am more curious than I should be. I'm always the sexually curious one.

I've read books on BDSM, but reading is not the same as talking one on one. It's a whole other aspect, a whole other depth. I would hate to write about something ignorantly or inaccurately--especially if it's inaccurate crap.

In my life I've only done light bondage. I would be lying if I said my interest is completely innocent. Handled correctly, I'm sure there the line of pleasure and pain can be blurred for phenomenal experiences, I just can't say I've experienced much of them. To some extent, absolutely, but not enough to be knowledgeable. My husband in a closet dom so to speak. He has potential, but it clashes with some of his traditional ideas.

Would I love to be a domme? Probably to try it, but I don't know how serious i would be. Ultimately, giving up control... even the idea of it, is pretty arousing. Hence why I'm curious and researching.