Your first time?

[Lion]

It is something that every dom/me has to go through, their first experience domming.

I'm talking about real life, not over the phone or online (Not to say that's fake or anything, but that's not what I'm looking for right now)


How did you go about it? Who was your sub at the time, was it more of an exploration or something that you just made up as you went along?

[_ID_]

When you say Domming, are you referring to a scene, or are you referring to when a person is in another's head, and controls them? The two are entirely different.

[Lion]

I guess in this case...scene

[_ID_]

Well in that case we could be referring to topping or Dominating or Mastering a submissive. It would totally depend on the dynamic of the couple.

My first real life scene was with my first submissive, and was a flogging scene. There I learned how to actually flog. It was far from erotic, or intense or anything else amazing. What it was however was a great learning base to start from. I've used what I learned there in all my scenes since then.

[Midnytedreams]

So many years ago....I was but a novice Dom, learning about My own wants desires in the lifestyle. I met and became friends with an older experienced submissive at a local munch ... she was unattached to anyone as was I. We became close she would ask Me over to dinner and cook at her place often, or we would just discuss the lifestyle for hours... One night as we sat and talked at her home ..she looked at Me and asked. Why have you not tried to Dom me?
To say it took Me by surprise would be an understatement.... she sat next to Me on the couch with much apprehension... I pointed to the floor before Me at My feet , I watched as she moved from the couch and knelt before Me, and said to her " Is that what you desire". her face lowered to My feet... and I heard her say " yes Sir" . That night she was mine I used all I had learned to that point to bring both of us much joy.....Apprehension is normal response to this newness.... We stayed together for 6 years.... All because she showed Me her desire.