Quote Originally Posted by thir View Post
And I agree with you both, but have to say it is quite rare to find a Dom who is consistent.
Consistency is difficult to find as dynamics do vary. Dom or subbing by numbers’ would provide such a thing, but as each relationship is unique, it would be difficult to successfully maintain. However, should honest communication actually be embraced then an exclusive form could be achieved.

Unfortunately, I could offer that when one determines ‘this’ works/worked, they may be reluctant to accept that this could fail to be as effective within another relationship. Then the interaction deteriorates, as the parties involved fail to achieve what they truly desire. Play becomes simply that play’ and people get let down or in the worst case scenario badly hurt.

Empowerment of another is exquisite when it is provided, but has to be accepted for it to be effective?