thegirlwonder

i just finished Kundera's "The Unbearable Lightness of Being," and this post is heavily colored by the thoughts that it sparked. (i wanted you all to know, just in case you had the silly idea that i got this deep on my own, lol)

Everyone talks about decisions as if they are the end all/be all... but are they really? Does it not "take two to tango"? In any sort of decision, i find that there has to be two parties.

examples:
(a)company offers a job
(b)you either take it or not

(a)the world decides it needs rain
(b)you decide to stay at home or put on your boots and go

(a)your Dom tells you to do something
(b)you either willingly give Him control or leave

i see it almost as a cause and effect. And i'm sure there are exceptions to this, i'm not saying it's all-inclusive for sure, but these are the types of decisions that i'm concerned with at the moment.

The book (which i highly recommend) sort of centers on the idea that what happened once might never have happened at all, and therefore decisions are light, subjective, or (to borrow from my favorite source,) "too rash, too unadvised, too sudden, too like the lightning, which doth cease to be ere one can say it lightens." They are not the catalyst and source of suffering that W/we may make them out to be, simply because it is a matter of chance and circumstance that they exist in the first place.

And it takes TWO to tango.

What this means is that i can search high and low for my dream job. Doesn't mean it exists/i will ever find it. i can buy every bottle of nail polish in the store. Doesn't mean i will ever find that color that perfectly compliments my skin tone and goes with everything.

i've never looked at anything from this angle (it's Czech lit, although it was originally published in France, and i'm afraid i'm just not that worldly *grin*) and in truth i find it a little depressing.

i'm most certainly more of the Kermit the Frog philosophy. You know... "Time's fun when you're having flies" and all that jazz. But part of me cannot overlook my own shortcomings, mainly the fact that i cannot will anyone or anything to complete the other half of a decision. Any decision. That as proactive as i am, there's still a part of the equation where i might have to sit and wait.


...but after all, i think that's okay.