Polyamorous or just not sure?

[jeanne]

Perhaps because I don't have children, I can't understand it... the difference.

I don't think that's the case at all. It is, of course, tempting to fall back on that easy response, but it's facile. I'm going to think a moment - will attempt an explanation. Perhaps it will make sense, perhaps not.

Perhaps because I don't have children, I treat all my adult loves as most treat their children. Does that make me, as a poly personality, shallower or deeper?

Only you know the answer to that. Each of us finds what works for us, and makes our own peace with it.