Hey DB,

It may sound simple, but for things to change, sometimes we've got to change.

If you found a domme that made you happy,
would you let yourself be happy with her
or would you rather be happy being miserable?

Yup, I wrote it, "happy being miserable".
Just like there are those who are happy being angry,
or sad or any other emotion.

There have been a few rare moments in my life,
when I've been down that "I'm so depressed I should
just end it all" road. But who really knows?
This could be a one ticket, ride it all you can ride,
and I'd like to make that ride the most fun and
enjoyable that I can.

You have to do what works best for you.

As Ben Franklin said, "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."

I learned along time ago that happiness comes from inside, not the outside. It's a choice. All of our emotions are a choice, though some may be from an unconscious choice. Everything else is a reason or excuse to justify that choice.

You've joined the forum, met a bunch of folks who are happy and have asked very insightful questions.

I'm sure there are many lurkers who feel the same way or who have felt the same as you. It's hard to admit those feelings when it can be so politically incorrect.

ARE THERE ANY dark, sad, hateful, miserable, judgemental, black wearing, angry but in the end decent people in the BDSM community?

Of course, there are. Now will they admit it?
Hmmmmmmm

Ruby


PS

A double pat on the head for opening up a topic that comes from your heart with a hug and a squeeze for telling the truth about your age.