I'm so sorry you have to go through all of that...

It seems that things are kind of taking care of themselves now... but have you written to J? Often times I know I express myself much better in writing.

Maybe you should write to J and let her know of your care and concern for her... that this is not just all about you and your Master. Let her know what her friendship means to you.... etc...

mabye even print out your initial post and let them read it. She may just be feeling neglected... or replaced.... who knows... its such a tough situation. But it seems whats really lacking is good communication by all of you. Her illness does not excuse rude behaviour or being disrespectful. You are basically a part of that family and deserve to atleast be respected and treated with kindness.

Make your feelings known... let them know it is not just about you and him.. but J and your son as well...


Best wishes.