mari,

I've said before that poly relationships are always the hardest to maintain, but with some of the most awesome benefits if you can make it work. *hugs* You hang in there. Make yourself happy. Don't worry about any of the negative things others may say--only worry about doing what is right for you. Take care of yourself and your child first, and let everything else fall into place, as it will.

And if you ever need a place to cry, vent, or whatever...my PM box is always open.
*more hugs, just in case you need them*