I think it really does take finding that "one" to submit to. Though I "fight" Requiem, I don't struggle nearly as much as I did before (other relationships*). Being under his complete control, being able to give him that much trust... It's an amazing feeling. He hasn't abused it at all, and though we have a lot of the relationship to go (At least I would love to believe so) I doubt he ever will.
It's amazing to think about bdsm relationships. I've been finding that they are actually just like vanilla, with a different perspective.
-Finding "the one"
-Trust
-Communication
-Responsibility
-Give and Take
Honestly, what is the difference?
*Could honestly be that he has a genuine interest in it too
Oh dear....I've gone on a tangent, haven't I?![]()