Orgasm Control- The In's and Out's

[tessa]

I was talking with my friend ~waves~ and one of the topics that came up (pun intentional) was orgasm control. We differentiated it from cum restriction and/or denial, but we umm, well, kinda got all caught up in what we were talking about and didn't get very far with what it is and what it isn't.

So, if all you wonderful folks could contribute your ideas and thoughts about the controlling of orgasms, I would greatly appreciate the knowing. So would my friend. And she said she'd be willing to "do" anyone who offered insight here.

~allows time for her jaw to drop open~

Ok, she didn't really say that. But I just had this picture in my head of her eyes going wide with "oh she did not say that!" and I couldn't resist.

Anyway, back to orgasm control...pretty please?

tessa

[sipgirl]

For me personally if he denies me during a scene it becomes even more arousing. I know that eventualy he will grant me permission to cum and when he does I know how much more significantly intense it will be. Not only is the physical release going to be far more intense, but allowing him to have that power, giving him control over my actual body makes me hot!!!!Whew...ok time to go!!

[pixie_dust]

Interesting topic!

Let's see...for me, I see orgasm control as being when I'm told, "Not until I tell you."

Of course, when you hear that whispered in your ear and is constantly in the front of your thoughts, it becomes sooo much more difficult to hold back. But, when you are finally given permission, "Now, cum for me!" the orgasm is a gozillion times more intense.

[tessa]

But, when you are finally given permission, "Now, cum for me!" the orgasm is a gozillion times more intense.

"Gozillion"- gosh, that's a big number! ~giggles~

This is exactly the insight I was hoping for. What it is really, how it affects the experience, that "control over my actual body"...

~thinks on that~

Ok, now I'm all "Whew!"

[rach]

Cum denial is for me not until i tell you, and for the most part I love it as it does make the orgasm very intense- but occasionally if i'm denied after being taken to the edge too many time i do actually have problems cumming and get very worked up- in a bad way! i seem to have a limit, but i think i'm geting a little better with practice.

[jeanne]

...And she said she'd be willing to "do" anyone who offered insight here.

~allows time for her jaw to drop open~

Ok, she didn't really say that. But I just had this picture in my head of her eyes going wide with "oh she did not say that!" and I couldn't resist.

OMG - Laughing my ass off! Darn right I didn't! You are bad. Bad, bad, bad. In a hilarious, fun, and yes - "oh she did not say that!" way. (But still, bad!)

With eyes still pretty wide open,
jeanne

[jeanne]

I was laughing so hard I forgot to respond to the actual question!

But, since moans, sighs, groans and those barely whispered pleas for permission just doesn't come across real well in the written word, I guess I have no comment at all. Unless I grab a thesaurus.

Ha!
jeanne

[tessa]

I was laughing so hard I forgot to respond to the actual question!

That's because when I'm bad, I'm so very, very good. ~^5's with the ghost of Mae West~

But, since moans, sighs, groans and those barely whispered pleas for permission just doesn't come across real well in the written word, I guess I have no comment at all. Unless I grab a thesaurus.

Ha!

Somebody spank her!

[tessa]

but occasionally if i'm denied after being taken to the edge too many time i do actually have problems cumming and get very worked up- in a bad way!

I can imagine that happening to me. Not a good thing at all. Wonder how to avoid that?

Thanks, rach.

[nk_lion]

Tessa, a suggestion, why don't you propose orgasm control to Daredevil, and tell him he can control the intervals between each one, for an hour, day, or perhaps maybe a month

[Ozme52]

For me personally if he denies me during a scene it becomes even more arousing. I know that eventualy he will grant me permission to cum and when he does I know how much more significantly intense it will be. Not only is the physical release going to be far more intense, but allowing him to have that power, giving him control over my actual body makes me hot!!!!Whew...ok time to go!!

Careful hun... because it he hears that... you may find out more about denial than you care to learn.

[Ozme52]

I was laughing so hard I forgot to respond to the actual question!

But, since moans, sighs, groans and those barely whispered pleas for permission just doesn't come across real well in the written word, I guess I have no comment at all. Unless I grab a thesaurus.

Ha!
jeanne

You j? At a loss for words? Hard to believe...

Under what cir-cum-stances might that happen?

[Ozme52]

I can imagine that happening to me. Not a good thing at all. Wonder how to avoid that?

Thanks, rach.

The right dom... one who's paying attention.

[jeanne]

You j? At a loss for words? Hard to believe...

Under what cir-cum-stances might that happen?

I know. Shocking, isn't it? I think I hear ice cracking under my feet - is that hell freezing over? Why yes, yes it is.

Ice skating,
jeanne

[Ozme52]

Now to the question...

tessa

Your orgasm is your most intimate expression of your sexuality, your sensuality. When you give yourself in service to a dom, what better way for him to express himself, than by taking full control of your gift to him.

All else is a by product.

Pleasure for the dom to use that control in a myriad of ways.
Pleasure for the sub to be so well used.

[tessa]

Tessa, a suggestion, why don't you propose orgasm control to Daredevil, and tell him he can control the intervals between each one, for an hour, day, or perhaps maybe a month

NO thanks, nk. But how "wonderful" of you to think of such.

~huggles~

The right dom... one who's paying attention.

You said that just the way it needed to be said.

Now to the question...

tessa

Your orgasm is your most intimate expression of your sexuality, your sensuality. When you give yourself in service to a dom, what better way for him to express himself, than by taking full control of your gift to him.

All else is a by product.

Pleasure for the dom to use that control in a myriad of ways.
Pleasure for the sub to be so well used.

There is no better way. No better way to express it, control it or have it controlled. And your insight allows me to create a whole new "file" for something I already thought I knew all about. Can't wait to get to the filing. A most moanful answer, Oz. I do appreciate your words here.

jeanne? Hell only freezes over up there where it's too freakin cold. Come back down here where it's warm, we'll find some hell near a beach somewhere and we can go skinny-dippin.

I'm learning something here, people. Oh, stop with the gasps of surprise.

This is good learning. Thanks!

[Ozme52]

You said that just the way it needed to be said.


There is no better way. No better way to express it, control it or have it controlled. And your insight allows me to create a whole new "file" for something I already thought I knew all about. Can't wait to get to the filing. A most moanful answer, Oz. I do appreciate your words here.

So tessa... does that mean I win the prize? I get to 'do' jeanne?

[tessa]

So tessa... does that mean I win the prize? I get to 'do' jeanne?

(Just to keep those eyes of hers wide open and that luscious mouth slightly parted...ok, a lot parted)

Sure, Oz. You get to "do" jeanne. I mean, that's what she intimated to me (I just said I was kidding and she just said she didn't really say such a thing 'cause of the contest rules and all). So it's not like you need my permission for the go ahead...or the go behind, for that matter. The prize is yours (and oh, what a prize she is).

I really am bad. But so are you, Oz. I'm in grand company.

She's gonna kill me dead. Yes, she is.

Eh, she'll torture me first, so it's all good.

[Ozme52]

Eh, she'll torture me first, so it's all good.

Maybe we'll undertake to do that together...

[princess_of_pain]

...but occasionally if i'm denied after being taken to the edge too many time i do actually have problems cumming and get very worked up- in a bad way! i seem to have a limit, but i think i'm geting a little better with practice.

Good to know I'm not alone on this one...

[tessa]

Eh, she'll torture me first, so it's all good

Maybe we'll undertake to do that together...

Well, there's my hell right there! No need to go looking for it. Although I was wanting to visit the beach...

But for double the torture, yep, I'll toss the beach notion. And for me, that's saying something.

Woohoo!

She's still gonna kill me.

[gagged_Louise]

Maybe we'll undertake to do that together...

You should ask moptop rather than jeanne to assist in this Oz, she has a definite switch streak.

[tessa]

Now how did this turn into "torture tessa" time??

Oh yeah, I'm bad. That's how.

~sneaks out before it gets crazy~

[gagged_Louise]

I have a feeling you're bumping into a kind of semi-hard limit here, Tessa; you want to be owned in this devious sense and at the same time you're dead scared of it.
*grins and watches Tessa run*

[jeanne]

Now how did this turn into "torture tessa" time??

Oh yeah, I'm bad. That's how.

~sneaks out before it gets crazy~

Yes. Yes you are. "torture tessa" time? Hmmm, I'd like to see that for myself. Why yes I would.

[tessa]

Yes. Yes you are. "torture tessa" time? Hmmm, I'd like to see that for myself. Why yes I would.

Now who's the bad one, hmm?? jeanne is, that's who!

I'd like to see that too, actually, self-voyeur that I am. I'll bring the camera, okie dokie?

[jeanne]

And a particular, not to be named, outfit, perhaps?

[gagged_Louise]

And a particular, not to be named, outfit, perhaps?

handcuffs and gag included.

[Ozme52]

[tessa]

I have a feeling you're bumping into a kind of semi-hard limit here, Tessa; you want to be owned in this devious sense and at the same time you're dead scared of it.
*grins and watches Tessa run*

Louise! Shh! ~shoves my secret back under the rug~

And a particular, not to be named, outfit, perhaps?

~nods lots~