Quote Originally Posted by Playfulsub View Post
Do you have children, Flaming-Redhead? The ONLY reason I am still in my marriage is because I really don't want to pull the rug out from under my kids. My husband is not physically or verbally abusive, (although his constant negativity and criticism wears on my self esteem sometimes), he's not an alcoholic, he's not a 'bad' person. It's just that after 15 years, he has no idea who I am. Why? Because he never hears me. Ever. It's intensely frustrating to be disappointed time and time again. And I can relate the to 'being placed on anti-depressants' part. But, I feel for the sake of my kids, it's best to stay for now.
I am in that same spot.... but you know... something happened the other day that makes me reconsider if my staying for the sake of the kids is REALLY the best option...

We were arguing. Which actually doesn't happen often... once a quarter or less normally and in this argument I got fed up and left the room. Our youngest (5 years old) had gotten up and over heard a large portion of it. When I left the room she proceeded to go in and tell daddy that "you have the choice to leave instead." Her exact words. So... the question becomes... am I helping the kids or hurting them worse?

(Sorry... this is actually sidetracking this thread a bit, if it gets too bad I'll see about splitting the two!)