Quote Originally Posted by Playfulsub View Post
That's fantastic that you have come to that agreement with your wife. I have broached the subject with my husband, but he is absolutely not interested. Which is a shame, because now I'm doing it behind his back, which is not in my nature at all. The ideal situation for us would be a semi-open marriage where we are both free to explore other relationships but we stay together for the kids. We could probably end up being good friends if he was open minded enough to try it.
Don't misunderstand. This is a 30 year old agreement which we never discussed save for once or twice early on...and once when she was concerned about a particular lady who turned out to be, not a lady, but a girl. (But I mention the incident to allow people to understand, this agreement isn't a figment of my imagination. LOL)

Several of my acquaintances had apparently stepped over the line... but I had not because our agreement included... no mutual friends, no mutual acquaintances. I kept to the letter of the agreement... and probably sidestepped a nasty outcome.

I would be the first to admit that trying to negotiate that kind of agreement after a number of years of marriage would be difficult. We set the guidelines for our relationship early on... and yes, somethings change and mature over time. But I think this particular topic is a difficult one to "renegotiate" especially if you don't already have something in place other than your marriage vows.

Good luck.