Quote Originally Posted by just_annie View Post
(Hence where "true vs. play" Dominates come in to my way of thinking.)

And just to confuse the topic more... there are times that I find that the second relationship actually enhances the first without the other partners knowledge. If I am being more fulfilled and being made happier due to whatever reason/source I am less likely to take the small annoying things and blow them out of portion. I am calmer, more able to focus, etc. All of which have positive impacts on the marriage....
How very well stated annie! i have returned from visits with MR to hearing "You should go off more often as it seems to do you so well"

i can also relate to not always knowing when or if staying or going is the best for anyone...it is as i stated what it is...and whatever it is it is ALWAYS given thought...i have no delusions of "happily ever after" or life without conflict, it is not easy to stay and it will not be easy to leave...i am blessed to have in my life a strong, confident, caring Dom and partner who wants to take me on as a "whole package"

hugs!
cali