Relationships outside of marriage

[caligirl{Rob}]

I can only tell you this. I have known Cali since I joined the Library and I have met MR in person. They are truly in love and I believe that when the time is right they will be together and be very happy. I hope it can be soon. They were blessed to find one another.
I just had an ugly wake up call and may not have all the time in the world to finally be with Dragon, as we had once thought. (We have no other relationships in our way, but we have elderly parents and job responsibilities that keep us apart). And even though he is ill, I still can't leave to be with him, as much as I would like to. Mean old Master insists on being "practical". Pfffft! However, I would strongly encourage anyone that has had a long term, real life relationship with their Dominant or submissive, and are totally confident that this is what they need to be happy, to do whatever they can to make that relationship exclusive.
Just my 2 copper tarns worth..... "peace" ~blizz~

i love you so much blizz!! and you know my thoughts and prayers are with you and Dragon always (darn practical Doms!") HUGS!!

I was going to post in response to several and defend my choice(s). But, have decided against it.

Basically, unless you are me and have lived the EXACT life, with the same people, circumstances, etc. then your words and response to this topic are nothing more then that. Yours. You may have handled the situations differently, but that is something that can never be completely proven... since you are NOT me.

We are all entitled too our opinions, just as I am entitled to make the choices I feel are best for me and mine. We can either agree to disagree on those views and move on or not. But I will no longer defend myself to anyone for being who I am and making the decisions I felt necessary in my situation. No one has to agree with me... but it isn't fair to judge or insult me in the process.

that was beautifully stated annie...no way to improve on perfection! HUGS!

She asked how you can have a D/s relationship outside of a marriage and still have honesty, and she also asked when is it okay to go outside the marriage to start a D/s relationship. Everyone is giving their honest opinion on what is oftentimes a volatile subject. I won't say it's okay if I don't think it is, but it's not my decision to make for anyone but ME. We are all responsible for the decisions we make and must ultimately bear the consequences of those decisions. Sometimes our decisions affect other people directly or indirectly, either positively or negatively. That being said, if you're going to air your dirty laundry on a public forum, don't be surprised if not everyone approves of your skidmarked underwear. Eww...that was kinda gross....*ggls* Anyway, it's like having kinks...what works for some doesn't work for others.

silly me looked at it as honestly answering a serious question with the thoughtful and open view of the reality of my own life, my own experience, and difficult choices made to get through each day...that is obviously something that is not wise to do...i don't apologize nor seek approval, but also don't expect the willingness to share part of my experience as open season to be judged