Funny, I spent a long time hiding the fact from the nilla world due to being a licensed professional. That is one of the few things in my life that I regret. I am who I am and I no longer hide the fact from anyone. I have found that most of my friends went your too laid back to be a Dominant in that lifestyle. Well I am a damn good Dom in my part of the life and I don't believe there are many better then me. I have lectured on the Life, mentored on the Life and yes I don't go out of my way to tell people who I am but I don't ever deny it.

I found each time it came out the folks I worked with change some toward me but other then having to take s few classes in sexual harrassment for work life went on. The truly funny part is that most of the nilla women came with questions and some did all they could to invade my personal space to touch me.

I agree that being the female part is harder since most can't or won't believe that there is anything wonderful in the life for them. Shame, I will take the company of a submissive no matter who over a pushy person every time.