Hi everyone.

i have to respond to this one, and first of all...i'm very sorry you two had to go through that icey. It's amazing what so called friends can do when they put their minds to it. Unfortunately, i had a very similar experience with a vanilla boyfriend who found some of my pic collections online. Can't even BEGIN to explain the hell he put me through and the things he accused me of. Never good when a man that supposedly *loves* you calls you a "sick, perverted, twisted bitch" in front of your teenage children.

Personally, i have found that people who aren't in the life, don't get the life. My vanilla friends would more easily accept a physically abusive relationship than a safe, sane, and consensual one that involved me being a submissive. Their minds cannot wrap around the fact that the strong-willed, self-reliant, go-getter that they know me as can find peace, pleasure, and enjoyment in the exchange of power in a Dom/sub relationship. Again learned through very painful experiences (and not the good kinda pain).

So i tend to keep my preferences to myself and those that understand me. To me, it's best to be on a need to know basis. In other words, what i need, not everyone needs to know *g*.

Just another opinion.