Quote Originally Posted by mastersgem View Post
Alternatively, i think you personally probably know the people and players in your community and who are the valid ones and who aren't so you may want to try to go to another submissive to talk with who you think is being abused, sometimes it's better accepted coming from a peer and not another authority figure
But even if I do know them intimately, or think I do... who am I to come there and have opinions? Finding mr right in the fetish world is not easy. Not only is it small, doms are scarce. I've seen desperation drive otherwise smart girls into relationships which aren't healthy.

And a lot of subs are just not playing it safe. You know these girls who enter the scene with a bang. Usually hot and young and end up feeling violated and pissed off that nobody was there to catch them. And leave as soon as suddenly as they came damning the whole scene. Even if I can see what's going to happen well in advance, speaking up isn't necessarily a good thing. These girls have got to learn sooner or later. As much as I hate to let the idiot masters I mentioned earlier get laid with young how chicks, it might as well be those guys teaching the girls what men to avoid.

This is not an easy situation. The kind of relationships I want to be able to intervene in, is relationships which are potentially dangerous and seem to be dragging on far longer than a short unpleasant lesson should take. ...and then again... who am I to come and have an opinion? What makes me all wise and all knowing? How can I possibly not come across as a swollen ego buffoon?