I sometimes do feel sorry for those girls online, who are new to the lifestyle, hungry for attention and willing to do anything to get it. You can always spot an attention whore a mile away. You feel trapped in the middle wanting to protect them from the predator Doms on one hand, and on the other hand, you want to slap them upside the head to knock some sense into them.

I have been the victim of the velcro collar and I learned the hard way a long time ago what to do and what not to do when online with others. And it seems that these days I see more and more wannabes online, both subs and Dom/mes. Is is because I can spot them more easily now or are there truly more of them among us now?

I really hope that the newbies to this lifestyle spend some time reading the forums and then take their time in the chatroom getting to know everyone as people first and then as a potential Dom/me. Maybe that would stop some heartache.