Ok - a longer comment.

I have a bit of a thing about newbies in the lifestyle. I've seen a couple of perfectly good and wonderful submissives be ruined by running up against the wrong sort of "dominant". I'm talking the predators here - who go after newbies because usually newbies are eacger to learn and to please - and some want to experience everything "Right now, please!"

I've picked up the poieces once - it was a friend who had been quite private and self contained - she hadn't given off any indication that she was interested - and at the time I was in the closet myself. Pam never did re-enter the lifestyle - she was a little too gunshy after her run-in - in this instance with a "domme" - an 18 year-old who claimed all sorts of experience (as if, at 18), but she was incredibly cute and Pam was a lesbian. The 18-yo did a real number on Pam - convinced her that to be a good sub she had to do as she was told - regardless of whether she could or not.

From that point on - I've had a bit of a soft-spot for newbies. I do NOT want to take one on and train one at this time. I have my hands full with my own girls. But I am more than willing to discuss the finer points of Master/sub relationships from the Dominant side of the equation with any newbie who is willing to listen and to be guided.

I've done it for years. I like to see new people enter the lifestyle - but I like to see them do so safely, and under controlled settings, until they have found their feet and have a much clearer idea of who and what they truly are. So yes, icey - if you want to steer people at me - I have the time and inclination to try and keep them from getting into real trouble or being destroyed. That's an open invitation, by the way - don't expect me to play with you - and definitely don't expect me to be patient if you go against my advice in ways that lead to issues for you.

Hugs,

W